Being In the Shadow
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Reflection Snapshot
Theme: Stepping out of the shadows of others to embrace your authentic presence and inherent brilliance.
Intention: To invite you to examine where you have been hiding pieces of yourself and to gently encourage you to step into the light of your own truth.
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This reflection explores the tendency to shrink ourselves or stay quiet to accommodate louder voices around us. Through the story of a dove named Jackie finding her voice after a loss, we look at how comfort in the shadows can sometimes mask a fear of being seen. We discuss the hidden exhaustion of holding back, the trap of confusing our habits with our identity, and the freedom found in simply allowing what is inside to rise. Ultimately, we discover that power does not have to roar; it just needs to be honest.
Reflecting …
The Comfort of the Shadows
Being in the shadows means "tucking away" pieces of yourself, your voice, your truth, your brilliance, often with the thought of staying unseen. Sometimes we stay in these shadows not because we fear the light, but because we have become content and comfortable in the "cool and the quiet." We might assume, or let others assume, that this reserved nature is simply who we are.
However, this contentment can come at the cost of your genuineness. When we mirror others or silence ourselves to keep the peace, we stop showing up fully. We might feel safe, but we are mistaking safety for invisibility. Just like the dove Jackie, who stayed quiet for thirteen years while her louder companion took up space, we often do not shine simply because we believe someone else’s light leaves no room for ours.
The Trap of "Just How I Am"
We often look at our history of "staying in the shadow" and mistake it for our permanent nature. We convince ourselves, "I'm just the quiet one," or "That's just my way." But often, what we call our personality is simply a pattern of "playing small" that we have practiced for so long it feels like who we are.
As we saw with Jackie, "quiet" was not her permanent definition; it was simply her response to the room she was in. When we confuse our habit of "shrinking" with our actual identity, we deny ourselves the possibility of expansion. You are not defined by the silence you have kept; you are defined by the truth that is waiting to step forward.
The Hidden Cost of Restraint
We often mistake the shadow for a place of rest, believing that stepping into the light is what requires all the effort. However, there is a heavy, invisible toll paid when we actively suppress who we are. Think of the energy required to hold a buoyant object underwater; it takes constant, unwavering pressure to keep it submerged.
In the same way, "staying small" is actually an active state of resistance against your own nature. You are constantly editing your thoughts and monitoring your volume to ensure you are not taking up too much room. True exhaustion often comes not from shining, but from the relentless work of holding yourself down.
The Shift Into Light
Sometimes it takes a shift, a loss, or a significant change to realize that the light is actually available to us. When the louder presence fades or the dynamic changes, we might find that stepping forward does not require becoming someone else. It simply requires allowing what has always been inside to finally rise.
This transition is not about performing or putting on a show. It is about dropping the "performance mode" entirely. Power does not always have to be loud or aggressive. It can hum, flow, and coo. When we stop asking who we are to be brilliant and start accepting that we were made to shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.
Asking the Hard Questions
What it is: A journaling practice to identify self-imposed limitations.
How to try it: Write down the specific questions from this reflection. Ask yourself what parts of yourself you have kept hidden in the shadows. Ask what is keeping you from fully showing up as your true self. Write the answers directly underneath the questions to make the invisible visible.
The Affirmation of Presence
What it is: A spoken mantra to reinforce your right to take up space.
How to try it: Stand in front of a mirror or sit quietly and repeat this phrase: "I allow myself to step into the light, trusting that I am enough just as I am. I release the need to stay small and step forward into my true self."
Key Takeaways
Contentment in the shadows often comes at the high cost of your own genuineness and authenticity.
Keeping yourself small is an active, exhausting process; shining is your natural state of buoyancy.
Rise Into Action
Beneath the Story: We often shrink back from our own brilliance because we learned early on that attention felt unsafe or brought unwanted criticism.
Gentle reflection prompt:
Who am I when no one is telling me who to be?
Until next time … keep listening for the higher note.
Say.
Be.
And it is.
